It’s the Collapse of the Family That Results in Father-Absent Homes

 

Suzanne Venker

With Father’s Day upon us, the time has come to address as a nation what Heather Mac Donald noted earlier this year is “the greatest social catastrophe of our time”: fatherlessness.

Fatherlessness is the No. 1 cause of nearly all social ills we face. We can’t afford to ignore it any longer.

To be clear, father absence is the more accurate term, since fatherlessness implies that men have become “deadbeat dads” — nothing could be further from the truth. Sure, this faction exists, as do “deadbeat moms.” But the two most significant threats to a father’s presence in the home are divorce and out-of-wedlock births.

It’s the breakdown of marriage, in other words, or the collapse of the family, that results in father-absent homes. Whether you feel its pain directly or not, it affects you.

“Families are the building blocks of civilization,” writes Genevieve Wood at the Daily Signal. “They are personal relationships, but they greatly shape and serve the public good. Family breakdown harms society as a whole.”

Indeed it does. And how, exactly, did the family fall apart?  more

19 Comments on It’s the Collapse of the Family That Results in Father-Absent Homes

  1. the result of no father gave us Barack Obama

    … ‘dreams from my father’ … yeah, right

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  2. It happened long before the marxists. It became far more prevalent WITH the marxists. The farmer family kept the family within so many acres. Billy knew how to glean and make a proper haystack at 8 years old, and he knew how to trace an ox. Milly knew how to milk, make butter, and bread, and she was only 8 years old. She also knew how to sew. Billy made his own boots, and he made boots for Milly.

    We used to be a family. This is considered idealized bullshit these days. But it really existed.

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  3. All part of Lucifer’s plan…the Marxists have amped it up because they speak the language of Lucifer. Lies, lies, and more lies.

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  4. I was once a 2nd generation feminist (oh hush yall it was the late 80s). Ironically I also married Beaver Cleaver, likely from a deep seated subconscious desire for normalcy and steadfastness despite the womyns rage against the Patriarchy. I stayed at home to raise our kids but got stir crazy so went back to school part time to become a nurse. He was supportive even if he didn’t completely understand my desire to do so.

    Then he lost his job. I became the breadwinner. And I cannot tell you how much that sucked. Especially when my angry female cohorts tried to welcome me into their ranks for all the wrong reasons, told me to ditch him, kick him out, take at least half and the kids so as to get support. Despite him being loving, hard working, faithful, a good daddy, these things they did not want to hear.

    They will bitch that a good man is hard to find but in a moment of vulnerability, apparently he is still a target worth utterly annihilating and exploiting.

    We made it through together. Then it happened yet again 3 years later. Made it through together yet again. God has a plan.

    Most importantly we have 3 daughters who have seen how we get through it together. What broke my heart most of all was my youngest upon hearing that daddy had lost his job, her asking if he and I were getting a divorce. She was 10. When I asked where she got that idea, she said everyone at school told her that’s the way it is.

    A dad is just a paycheck apparently.

    4uck them. Last night he had her help him change the oil in my car. Shes 14. She asked him if he would help her work on her car when she gets one in 2 years. Better than any cookout, card or mug with a pithy dad joke on it.

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  5. My dad was 30 when he died suddenly, leaving my widowed (not single!) mother to raise 3 kids. Nothing in the leftist agenda angers me more than singletons and gays CHOOSING to deny children the guidance and love of both a mother and a father.

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  6. Venker is fighting the good fight but it’s still too much of this;

    “The family is failing. Fathers are gone and that’s resulting in a couple generations of weak, disappointing males who aren’t good enough for the supergirls.”

    It’s more like this; The last two generations of females have been loaded with fat jerks and men (father or not) see no incentive at all in setting up their lives (giving away their lives) to have some value for one of these fat, entitled a%%holes. Especially when she will file for divorce 80% of the time and the female chauvinists in family court will specifically target the male for ruin. This is women’s fault. Don’t blame men for being rational.

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  7. Hoo Hoo Nay Nay, I applaud you for the strength to oppose the women who were trying to make you as miserable as they are. They know how to sway vulnerable women to join their man-devaluing ‘team’.

    You are blessed.

    John James R, I understand. It makes me furious what these women are doing to our men. Stay toxicly masculine! Real women do appreciate and need real men!

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  8. Yesterday I had lunch with my best friend. Since he moved to Longview I don’t see him as often as I used to, so I asked him if he had met any potential mates since our last talk a month ago.

    After going through how some women had approached him recently, he mentioned he brought up MGTOW to the last one. I was a bit perplexed as to why he would even go there.

    The guys that host these videos seem to hate all women. Like there aren’t any out there at all worth bothering with so don’t bother.

    This strikes me as something a gay guy would try to convince other men of.

    I completely understand how one can lose hope with the current state of things, but I refuse to write off all of the women of the world. That’s just nonsense to me.

    If anything, it’s easier now to weed out these types of man-haters because they are emboldened and encouraged to hate on men so they blurt out hateful things like it’s a matter-of-fact everyone knows.

    OK, sister, I’ll be moving on now. Thanks for revealing that up front.

    No need to hate all women, though. You don’t have your thinking cap on, buddy.

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  9. We know those in power will do nothing about it

    Not merely wrong, but an obvious lie.
    The current result is the intended result.

    If you like the current design, you can keep the current design.
    If you don’t like the current design, … well, they’re not going peacefully.

  10. @Dadof4 June 17, 2019 at 10:13 am

    > I completely understand how one can lose hope with the current state of things
    That’s good. Ridding oneself of the irrational is the first step to assessing what, truly, is.

    > but I refuse to write off all of the women of the world
    Because your rational assessment has proven that. You’ve got that list of … oh…

    > You don’t have your thinking cap on, buddy.
    I’m a just gonna’ leave that here.

  11. @Claudia June 17, 2019 at 9:16 am

    > Real women do appreciate and need real men!

    “Appreciate”? Of course.

    “Need”? Not yet. (Though a question for now: “When that time comes, that time after now, what will they demand in return?”)

  12. ^^ “When that time comes, that time after now, what will they demand in return?”

    The same love, respect and devotion I will give you.

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  13. Anonymous JUNE 17, 2019 AT 12:51 PM

    🙂

    Interestingly, your post could be taken either as support or as a slight on first read.

    I actually don’t know what you’re trying to say since I have no visual or audible clues on your delivery and absolutely no history of any of your positions in life I could refer back to to get where you’re coming from and implying.

    Example: If LadyInRed makes an incomplete reference today, I can assume it’s in line with her published history of positions. You? Not so much. Being anonymous has that effect.

    You might need to spell it out more if you expect others to understand you completely.

    Reminds me of conversations with people that think others can hear the voices in their heads also.

    Am I reading an offended, defensive MGTOW guy’s emotional reaction? Paranoid schizophrenic’s skippy rantings?

    If not, state your case instead of making vague references you think others already know.

    Otherwise, you’re a bit random.

    I’m open to a discussion on this matter if you think you have something worth sharing.

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