Twisted Sifter: More and more couples are opting for child-free weddings these days, which is totally their right. Kids can be unpredictable and disruptive, and some people would prefer to have a day not having to deal with either of those things.
If we’re being honest, their parents probably feel the same way and, barring issues with finding or affording childcare, are likely thrilled about the time away.
This couple are parents to a 13yo son who is disabled and functions on the mental level of a much younger child.
Still, they chose to bring him to a wedding where children under 10 – including the bride’s own kids – were not invited. more
“including the bride’s own kids”, now I see the problem.
I read on these dopey AITA posts where the would-be bride does not want to invite her non-binary brother (dresses for the sex he feels that particular day) and her other brother who is married to a man. Now dad is pissed and refuses to walk her down the aisle or pay for it.
Too much drama in culture today.
Sister was aware of the kid’s disability and should have been more explicit.
She sounds like she’s wound a bit tight.
And what’s with burdening Mom with this shit about?
I guess all of em are “developmentally challenged.”
mortem tyrannis
izlamo delenda est …
IF they had No Other Option Financially or no one willing to care for the kid then FINE, but Get Permission from the Sister FIRST.
Otherwise, Opt out and stay home. (bride didn’t even have her own kids there)
Generally, I-pads & Toys are not parenting technique.
One of my best friends has completely Ruined a 3 year old with this method of “parenting”
I missed both of my nieces weddings because they couldn’t find me someone to watch my dogs. I was coming from 400 miles away, yet they had a dog sitting situation set up for their own dogs…..It’s family. You have to try to love them, but should always be ready to be disappointed….
Weddings, Christmas, and Funerals. These are the high holy days for family disputes, past grievances, and future feud fodder.
I wholly disagree with the whole “no kids allowed” thing at weddings (especially). This is how we teach our children about the world and how families are formed. I was very surprised the bride didn’t have her own children there. The kids missed out on the vows of love, trust and permanence of their step-father, and of their mother’s express consent of these things. Even young children can grok the gravity of solemn occasions like weddings and funerals. Exclude the children from the reception, if you must, or arrange for a couple of adults to entertain the kids in another room for the duration.
Weddings should be family affairs where the kids are included as part of the family. No wonder today’s kids get older but don’t know how to act at gatherings.
How is not inviting “family” members making the wedding about family?
Not inviting your own children to your wedding certainly sends a message to the kids.
Why bother?
This is what is wrong with people and their commitment to family and marriage contracts.
It’s the bride’s party and she can invite – and disinvite – who she wants. If the people affected don’t like it, they can avoid inviting her to their parties.
The degradation of families is very sad. This illustrates how society is broken, just like the communist invaders want it, and planned it.
@AbigailAdams — I couldn’t agree more. The only conceivable reason for not having kids at a wedding is if it were being held in a nude dancers club or a gay bath club.
I went through Air Force basic training during November and December of 1973. The NCO’s of the training squadron had a Christmas party on base for themselves and their spouses. The TI chose me to babysit all of their kids in a big room adjoining the party while cartoons were being projected onto a screen. I was there to make sure the kids didn’t escape and wonder all over Lackland AFB and that they didn’t disrupt the partying going on by their parents. The TI had me pegged as a pretty mature guy, at least compared to the others in the training flight. Believe me, those kids did not need to see their parents during that party.
Ummm… the bride had her own kids she didn’t bring…
I am not a fan of big second weddings (or first weddings after the previous baby daddy disappeared or was discarded).
And sibling really thinks bringing a 13 year old with the mind of a 4 year old is appropriate? He’s in a wheelchair so he can’t get on the ‘You Must Be This Tall’ rides. Why bring him to an event for ages 10+?
Obviously, siblings aren’t close enough to discuss details beforehand. This whole dysfunctional family is why eloping was invented.
The guy knows his sister. He knows she’s self centered and not interested in compromise. It’s her way or the highway with her.
This is a typical sibling rivalry scenario. Passive aggressive brother feeling inadequate and resenting his perfectionist “my micro-managed life is better” sister. So, he shows up with special needs child knowing how his sister would react. You can guess this drama has been going on their whole lives.
Most families- can’t live without them but sometimes wishing you could.
Aaaaaaannnd! REALLY mature and confident, seeking validation from strangers on social media… WTF is wrong with people?
FJB
If you have to ask, then stay home.
Tell ’em that you had more urgent things to do.
Let the Drama Llama be on their part, not yours.
I predict this same situation will happen in a few years when “sister” gets to be a bride, again because she is a heartless, selfish bitch who has failed at yet another relationship.
I don’t get the Byzantine set of “rules” about weddings. If your goal is to spend tens of thousands of dollars to create a fantasy time where no one gets bored, or restless, or God forbid, upset, go ahead, but it would be nice if you could clearly explain your intent on the invite. That won’t happen, because this show/wedding is supposed to bring in all the goodies & attention, isn’t it?
They’re both the a$$hole here.
Oh stop. Just stop.
You don’t bring anyone to a wedding or other party/event who has not been explicitly invited, and RSVP’d. The invitation will state. (And, by the way, this includes whether “plus-ones” are invited.)
Not all functions and venues, regardless of purpose, are appropriate for children. People are entitled to have the kind of party they want to have.
A daytime wedding with an outdoor or other more informal reception is different from a late night black tie affair in a sophisticated setting. And typically neither of these things aren’t “fun” for children anyway.
Correction: “are ‘fun'”.