Institute for Family Studies
Young women are losing faith in marriage. This is the takeaway from a dramatic new Pew poll showing that in the past 30 years, the share of 12th grade girls who say they are most likely to “choose to get married” one day has dropped more than 20 percentage points, from 83% in 1993 to 61% in 2023. Meanwhile the share of young men who hope to get married has remained steady, at around 75%…
…There is no debating that women’s confidence in and devotion to marriage is falling. But there is robust debate about whether that’s a bad thing, and what’s causing it. Theories about young women’s declining interest in wedlock typically fall into two camps. The problem is either 1) the boys, or 2) the (feminist) girls. More
They couldn’t have done that in 1999?
I keep seeing videos on YouTube where women basically dismiss men. I remember for many years hearing women talk about men and the majority of the comments were negative. There is a lot of “men” negativity out there. The left is doing its part as well (if people don’t get married, then you can’t depend on the family for help – it has to be the government).
Let’s look at the Death Party’s agenda for the last few year, Feminism was designed to degrade the nuclear family by denigrating housewives, same sex marriage was designed to destroy the nuclear family, destruction of the economy made it so both parents were required to work and their education policies made it so no one knew how to think critically and most destructive was the ridicule and prejudice of Christian values. None of this was accidental. Communism has always been willing to play the long game.
Meanwhile the Muslims are breeding like pigs.
It’s the feminist movement that have brainwashed women that they don’t need men. They are being told that they can do anything a man can do and that men are not up to their standards in relationship material.
All of this is being reinforced by the media in shows that portray men as doofus’, incompetent, and unloving. The women are all competent, earn money and have professional and prestigious careers, and are the ones who take care of the children and run the household while the husband has fun while shirking his responsibilities.
Churches are no better. Instead of following the Bible’s guide that the man is the head of the household like Christ is the head of the Church, and they should be the spiritual leader loving their wives and children like Christ loves his children. The wives are to seek leadership from her husband while making a home for him and their children. But the love the husband has for her will never make her feel like a slave. It will free her to be who God intended her to be in the family.
Instead, we hear jokes at church that the husbands need to get permission from their “boss” and the women actually believe that. I’ve attended several churches and have found that that kind of “humor” is so sad. Men laugh, but they don’t realize how they are being demeaned in front of his family. Women laugh but secretly know that they DO want to be in control.
Ok, I’m not talking about every married couple, but I personally know one couple who wrestled with that problem and took the Biblical path to a successful life. My sister and her husband were that couple. My sister was very head strong and tried to be the boss. Her husband was soft spoken but in their home he put his foot down; he was the boss. When I moved home in 2017, she told me one time that she loved him more than she could ever imagine for insisting on having a Biblical marriage.
Whew, I didn’t mean to preach a sermon!
I’ve held out all my life thinking I should marry and start a family after I retire so I can devote all my attention and time to my hot new bride and my future gaggle of kids.
Now I get this news.
66 years of planning shot.
Women initiate 70% of divorces. A lot of them are because they were bored.
Young women these days are able to support themselves and earn a decent salary. Thus, if they consider the hit they would have to take to this ability, they do not want to marry men who are in the approximate same income bracket, especially given the prospect of no-fault divorce and diminished alimony. They want something that most of them just are not going to be able to get.
Another huge factor that’s not something many will mention but comes in vaguely as far as the risk: entitlement of unwed mothers to collect child support, and increased rights of men vis a vis custody to counter that, both in and out of a divorce.
Women “front load” the investment in children up front, taking a career hit, using opportunity costs as far as who to have children with, and have greater immediate emotional investment in young children. The prospect of easy divorce (or cheating leading to her filing for divorce) after only a few or even 10 or 15 years when there are little kids makes marriage a huge financial and emotional risk.
Over the past 30 or so years, the law has addressed men’s complaints about financial and custody fairness using a presumption that the parents are equivalent fungible entities, ignoring that only women have to be pregnant, and that men are different and will never have the same roles in family life.
It’s not that difficult to figure out.
I would say that the biggest driver of this problem is the attmpted fix to the welfare state, first collecting child support from him for nonmarital children, and then making it “fairer” by giving unwed fathers custody rights.
Stop this nonsense and marriage would have more value for both, and both men and women would have more incentive to get married and try hard to make it work.
And then there’s this:
https://notthebee.com/article/heres-six-and-half-minutes-of-hard-truth-from-nick-freitas-that-every-man-young-and-old-needs-to-hear
Which left me cheering.
So sad for them. Even sadder for our nation.
BevWKy,
That was an excellent video! Thank you!!